Marriage is a place of tolerance.
It is a place where endurance is key, and accepting your partner as they are is vital—not seeking to change them forcefully. People change gradually through love, not because they are pressured.
Do not marry with the expectation of changing someone. If you do, you are likely to face challenges in your marital relationship.
Take at least six months to court your partner, using this time to understand their habits and assess whether you can tolerate them long-term. Marriage is fundamentally about patience, understanding and tolerance until your spouse makes changes that align with your comfort.
Consider these questions:
Can you handle body or mouth odors?
Can you live with a partner who does not shave or bathe daily?
Can you tolerate someone who chews loudly or keeps their mouth open while eating?
Are you comfortable with someone who sleeps with the lights on?
Are you okay with snoring?
Can you manage the occasional loud or frequent passing of gas?
These are real aspects of marriage. Reflect carefully before committing, as tolerance and patience will be tested in ways you may not have anticipated.
Shalom🤎
~Precious Victor Akah
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